In
Memory: Stephen A. Mitchell
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Contemporary Psychoanalysis, Vol. 20, No. 4
(1984)
Object Relations Theories and the Developmental Tilt
Stephen A. Mitchell, Ph.D.
It
is the predicament of the neurotic that he translates everything
into the terms of infantile sexuality; but if the doctor does
so too, then where do we get?
Joseph
Campbell, The Masks of God
THE
DESIGNATION "OBJECT RELATIONS THEORY" has been used
with reference to a wide range of very different kinds of formulations:
from Klein's rich and complex depiction of unconscious fantasy,
to Fairbairn's highly abstract, schematic structural model, to
Bowlby's ethologically-based theory of attachment, to Winnicott's
epigramatic paradoxes and pithy observations about children, to
Mahler's powerfully evocative portrayal of the longing for symbiotic
fusion, to Jacobson's causuistic emendations of Freud's drive
theory.
To
employ a common term for such a wide array of disparate points
of view runs a risk—the fashionable popularity accruing
to "object relations theories" in recent years has blurred
important distinctions beneath a hazy aura connoting theory that
is new, humanistic, often esoteric, and presumably pertaining
to the deepest recesses of the mind and the earliest developmental
phases. Is the employment of a common phrase to designate these
different groups of theories useful or misleading? What do these
heterogeneous theories have in common? What is essential and what
is artifactual and political in their formulation? What has been
their central role in the development of psychoanalytic ideas?
Since
the multiplicity of theories of object relations has been parallelled
by a proliferation of different histories and interpretations
of what might be regarded as the "object relations movement,
" there is no consensus concerning these questions. Perhaps
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the
must fundamental and interesting disagreement is characterized
by the following divergence. Some observers (Kernberg, 1976) ;
(Modell, 1968) (and, in a somewhat different vein), (Levenson,
1983) regard object relations theories as an extension of pre-existing
theory—object relations theories add to drive theory and
the structural model a consideration of the earliest relationships
of the infant, which classical theory, in its focus on the Oedipus
complex, does not fully illuminate. Other observers (Guntrip,
1971) regard object relations theories as a new, alternate paradigm,
grounded in different assumptions concerning the nature of mind,
and shifting psychoanalytic theory from a framework in which drives
and their derivatives are understood to constitute the basic stuff
of mental life, to one in which the primary ingredients are relational
configurations, past and present, real and imaginary. If one conceives
of traditional psychoanalytic theorizing as constituting a "mainstream,
" the first view is that object relations theories have deepened
the channel, whereas the second view is that object relations
theories have rerouted the stream altogether. (See Lichtenberg,
1983b), (for an interesting development of the metaphor of the
psychoanalytic "mainstream.")
Authors
(such as Kernberg [1976] and Modell [1968]) who view object relations
theory as an extension of traditional theory into earlier, pre-oedipal
realms, regard those theorists who reject classical metapsychology
(like Fairbairn [1952] and Bowlby [1969]) as extravagant in their
claims, unnecessarily and wastefully disregarding the full richness
of Freud's contributions. The abandonment of a conceptual framework
as complex, elegant and serviceable as classical metapsychology
is surely not a loss to be taken lightly. But what of the costs
of the other path? What have been the implications and consequences
of the attempt to absorb object relations theories into the mainstream?
I will designate the most important device through which this
absorption has been accomplished the "developmental tilt"
and will demonstrate that the employment of this strategy has
had pervasive and unfortunate consequences for the manner in which
object relations concepts have been articulated and utilized in
both psychoanalytic theory and technique.
The
Strategy of Accommodation and the Developmental Tilt
Developing
a psychoanalytic theory is a process not dissimilar to designing
a house, the construction of spaces within which people
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live
and do things. Different kinds of spaces might be envisioned—the
problem in design is to arrange those spaces in relation to each
other so that they fit together, and so that the more microscopic
and circumscribed clinical insights and emphases rest comfortably
on the fundamental metapsychological premises of the theory.
In
classical Freudian theory (pre-ego psychology), the conceptual
foundation is provided by the concept of drive. All motivational,
developmental and structural phenomena, both in life in general,
and within the psychoanalytic situation, are understood in terms
of drive derivatives and defenses against drive derivatives. Classical
theory encompasses within it an account of relations with others,
but these relations, like all other phenomena, are understood
to consist of transformations of underlying drive pressures and
defenses, serving either as vehicles for drive gratification,
or as a bulwark in the ego's defenses against drive pressures.
In this sense, classical drive theory is perfectly internally
consistent, a well-designed and amply supported conceptual edifice.
In
the more recent history of psychoanalytic ideas (since the late
1940s), increasingly greater emphasis has been placed on relations
with others, past and present, real and imaginary. Psychoanalytic
clinicians and theorists began to grant object relations a more
central and more pervasive role than before. This created a crisis
of design. What is the relationship between object relations and
the underlying conceptual foundations of drive? The increasingly
greater clinical and theoretical emphasis on object relations
placed an enormous strain on the classical model, like a group
of cantilevered beams which are called upon to bear more and more
ornamentation until they threaten to collapse under the increased
weight.
Greenberg
and I (1983) have argued that the various strategies within the
complex array of contemporary psychoanalytic theories can be grouped
around two basic positions, which we have termed the strategy
of radical alternative and the strategy of accommodation. Strategists
of radical alternatives have abandoned the drive model completely,
substituting an alternative conceptual framework to replace the
weight-bearing function of the original foundation. Sullivan (1940),
(1953), Fairbairn (1952) and Bowlby (1969) are the purest practitioners
of this approach. Most other contemporary psychoanalytic authors
maintain a loyalty to the classical model in some form, adapting
it to enable it to encompass the more general shift in the direction
of relational issues. These strategists
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of
accommodation have developed various and often ingenious devices
for bracing and buttressing the drive model, stretching and altering
it, to enable it to contain an increasingly greater emphasis on
object relations. This more preservative approach characterizes
most of the authors generally considered to be "object relations
theorists."
How
does one both preserve a theory and yet introduce into it new
concepts which are at variance with its basic thrust and underlying
assumptions? More specifically, how can one grant that Freud was
correct in his characterization of psychopathology as entailing
conflicts over drives and defenses centered on the Oedipus complex,
yet also grant a primary and basic role to the development and
patterning of relationships with others? One device has been to
alter one or more component parts of the original model to encompass
relational processes and issues. Thus, Hartmann (1939) transforms
the concept "ego" from an agency whose sole purpose
is the control and regulation of drives to an agency encompassing
complex and primary relations with the environment (including
the interpersonal environment), relations which are relatively
independent of the drives. Other theorists have transformed the
concept "id" so that the repository of the drives themselves
is subject to the impact of early object relations (Jacobson),
or actually comprised of relational configurations (Kernberg,
1976). Another device has been the strategic use of diagnosis
(Kernberg, 1976) ; (Kohut, 1971) ; (Stolorow and Lachmann, 1980)
—classical theory and the structural conflict it depicts
is correct for neurosis; however, for more severe disorders (borderlines,
narcissistic personality disorders, developmental arrests, etc.),
a new model focused on object relations is required. (See Greenberg
& Mitchell [1983] for an extended discussion of these various
strategies.) One of the most important devices through which accommodation
has been accomplished, leading to pervasive implications in the
way object relations concepts have been shaped, has been the "developmental
tilt"—i.e., Freud was correct in understanding the
mind in terms of conflicts among drives; object relations are
also important, but earlier.
For
many strategists of accommodation the pillar of classical metapsychology,
the structural model, is understood to provide an adequate framework
for an account of human experience, both normal and pathological,
and that account depicts the conflict
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among
various drive derivatives, and between drive derivatives and the
defensive functions of the ego and the superego. When a theorist
following this strategy wants to introduce various relational
needs and processes as primary in their own right, as irreducible,
as neither merely gratifiers nor defenders against drives, they
are often introduced as operative before the tripartite structures
of id, ego and superego have become separated and articulated.
Theorists concerned with linear continuity necessarily preserve
the classical theory of neurosis as centered around sexual and
aggressive conflicts at the oedipal phase. They set object relations
formulations into pre-existing theory by arguing that they pertain
to a developmental epoch prior to the differentiation of psychic
structures, in the earliest relationship of the mother and infant.
The traditional model is jacked up, and new relational concepts
are slid in underneath. To return to our architectural metaphor,
it is as if a new, complex and roomy foundation level has been
set beneath an older edifice; the upper stories remain just as
they were, but the center of gravity has shifted downward. The
original structure is intact, but unoccupied; the scene of the
action has moved downward to the lower levels.
The
Developmental Tilt and Its Distortions
Melanie
Klein evolved an elaborate account of human experience as a passionate
struggle between murderousness, malevolence and envy towards significant
others, and a deep sense of love, gratitude and a wish to save
and restore them. Michael Balint depicts human relations as a
search for a perfect "unconditional" love, offering
the possibility of a passive surrender to a trusted and caring
nurturance. D. W. Winnicott came to see psychopathology as centering
on a struggle between an authentic and spontaneous expression
of impulses and wishes and a need to shape oneself around the
way others see one, according to the image others provide and
seem to require. Margaret Mahler locates the experience of self
in a pervasive dialectic between a need for autonomy and self-definition
and a desperate longing to surrender to and fuse with another.
Heinz Kohut characterizes the self as a bi-polar structure generated
from the tension between a need for a warm and embracing recognition,
and a need to identify with admired others.
Each
of these contributions (presented here in obviously greatly
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collapsed,
over simplified and schematic form) constitutes an object relations
theory generally applicable to human experience at all points
within the life cycle. Each offers an account of life's central
passions, an account which is at considerable variance from that
provided by classical metapsychology, in which human experience
is portrayed as a struggle to negotiate between the claims of
body-based, asocial psychic tensions and the demands of social
reality. In each object relations account, the human organism
is seen as inherently social, embedded in a matrix of relationships,
seeking relatedness with others in a primary and fundamental fashion.
In each account, the passions depicted characterize human longings
and fears at all ages. The struggle between destructiveness and
hopeful benevolence, the search for all-embracing love, the tension
between self-expression and pandering, between autonomy and a
longing to fuse, the need for supportive recognition and admired
heroes—these are fundamental dimensions of human relations,
from infancy through senescence. These various theories all draw
on what Greenberg and I have termed the "relational model,
" whose basic premises are at variance with the classical
drive model. The most essential and salient feature of object
relations theories, we argue, is precisely this broad and pervasive
departure in fundamental paradigm.
Yet,
each of these theorists—Klein, Balint, Winnicott, Mahler,
and Kohut—maintains a loyalty, in one form or another, to
classical drive theory. One (Mahler) maintains the earlier model
in its essentials; another (Klein) preserves its language while
changing its meanings; another (Winnicott) proclaims his loyalty
although the original model no longer figures meaningfully in
his formulations. Despite this diversity in degrees of fealty,
each author requires accomodation to make room for his or her
own contribution, and therefore many of these innovations have
been introduced into psychoanalytic theory via the developmental
tilt; consequently, the dynamic issues they depict tend to get
characterized as infantile, pre-oedipal, immature, and their persistance
in later life is often regarded as a residue of infantilism, rather
than as an expression of human relational needs extending throughout
the life cycle. We find this tendency even in object relations
theorists like Guntrip and Bowlby, who have disgarded drive theory
completely, yet whose thinking has been greatly influenced by
those major innovators like Melanie Klein and Winnicott who used
the developmental tilt to preserve allegience to the classical
system.
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Authors
who preserve some form of allegiance to drive theory yet introduce
relational dynamics as earlier, often end up with a bifurcated
view of the life cycle. To regard relational issues as prior to
drive issues separates human development into two kinds of concerns—young
infants have relational needs; older children and adults (those
who are healthy or suffer only from neurotic difficulties) struggle
with conflicts between instinctual impulses and defenses. Thus,
Winnicott distinguishes between early "needs" and later
instinctual "wishes"; Stolorow and Lachmann distinguish
between "developmental arrests" and later structural
conflicts; Kohut distinguishes between disorders of the self and
later structural neuroses; Mahler distinguishes between disorders
involving the separation-individuation process and later oedipal
conflicts, etc. (See Feinsilver, 1983), (for an incisive critique
of such dichotimizations as pre-oedipal/post-oedipal, conflict/deficiency,
interpretation/repair of deficits, insight/corrective emotional
experience.) Is it accurate or feasible to limit relational issues
to the earliest developmental phases? Do relational issues emerge
sequentially over the course of early infancy, becoming progressively
resolved, allowing the child to move on? The latest thinking of
some of the more prominent infant researchers suggests that they
do not.
Stern
(1983), for example, challenges the notion that the "separation-individuation"
issue, as depicted by Mahler (1967), is accurately assigned to
an early phase of development. Developmental theorists like Mahler
and Spitz, have tended to regard one early phase of life as bringing
to a head and essentially resolving a particular major life-cycle
issue, relational in nature, such as the establishment of basic
trust, autonomy, separation-individuation, etc. Stern argues,
by contrast, that these issues are most accurately viewed as life-long
struggles. The dialectic between union/fusion and differentiation/autonomy
experiences, for example, is a perpetual facet of human existence,
manifesting itself in the young infant in visual gaze behaviors
(Stern, 1977), in the toddler through motility, and in the older
child and adult in various symbolic processes. (See Lichtenberg,
1983a), (for a discussion of the recent evidence suggesting that
very young infants can differentiate self and object images, which
challenges the notion of a specific symbiotic phase.) These are
differences not in meaning, or dynamic issues, but in the equipment,
motoric and cognitive, through which the child is able to experience
the same issue. Thus, collapsing life-long relational issues to
early, circumscribed phases via the developmental
1Hartmann
warned psychoanalytic theorists against what he called the "genetic
fallacy"—the equation of a behavior with its origins,
or the assumption that a behavior originating out of conflict
is inevitably forever linked to and fueled by conflictual difficulties
(1960, p. 93). The distortions Hartmann was addressing pertain
to all psychoanalytic theory employing the framework of developmental
phases. The potential misuse of the "developmental tilt"
might be considered a subcategory of the genetic fallacy, wherein
particular kinds of life cycle relational issues are collapsed
into their earliest manifestations so as to preserve later developmental
epochs as the province of drive-related issues.
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tilt
distorts the very nature of those issues and the ways they manifest
themselves at different points throughout the life cycle.1
The
developmental tilt has generated what at times seems to be an
infinite regress in claims to developmental priority. A psychodynamic
account which the author regards as more basic, more primary than
structural conflict, is presented as earlier, leading to the attribution
of extra-ordinarily complex affective and cognitive capacities
to the newborn (Klein), great weight granted to prenatal and birth
experiences (Winnicott, 1949), and even speculations on the effects
on the embryo, in its first days, of parental attitudes at the
point of conception (Laing, 1976). Deeper is transformed into
earlier, rather than more fundamental, as if dynamics attributable
to the first months of life or even to prenatal existence still
occupy the most basic layers of experience, underlying and governing
psychic events and processes of later chronological origin. Thus,
theorists attempting to accomodate the drive model to object relations
issues attempt to keep instinctual and relational issues temporally
separable. By pushing relational issues into an earlier developmental
era, they preserve the oedipus complex as still fundamentally
instinctual. This mode of introducing theoretical innovation strains
credulity; it also skews these innovations in a peculiar way,
by collapsing relational issues into the interaction between the
mother and infant during the earliest months of life.
Let
us consider as a representative example an excerpt from the work
of Balint (1968), who introduced rich and clinically useful object
relations concepts while remaining loyal, in basic respects, to
drive theory. Balint developed the concepts of "primary love"
and the "basic fault" in an innovative and clinically
useful effort to account for transference/countertransference
impasses with certain
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kinds
of difficult patients. The principle of abstinence central to
classical technique, Balint points out, was developed in the context
of drive theory. The patient's impulses and wishes must not be
gratified, lest they become further entrenched rather than transformed
into memory and renounced. However, certain patients, Balint argues,
become stuck in analysis, demanding a responsiveness from the
analyst, without which they seem unable to progress. Balint characterizes
these longings and the patient's efforts to gratify them as a
need for "primary love."
In
my view, all these processes happen within a very primitive and
peculiar object-relationship, fundamentally different from those
commonly observed between adults. It is definitely a two-person
relationship in which, however, only one of the partners matters;
his wishes and needs are the only ones that count and must be
attended to; the other partner, though felt to be immensely powerful,
matters only in so far as he is willing to gratify the first partner's
needs and desires or decides to frustrate them; beyond this his
personal interests, needs, desires, wishes, etc., simply do not
exist. (1968, p. 23)
Balint
has provided an account of the analytic encounter which is based
on relational concepts and is alternative to that generated by
the drive model. It is not gratification of specific impulses
that the patient is seeking, Balint argues, but the need to establish
a certain kind of relationship—a state of unconditional
love. What is puzzling about Balint's description is his restriction
of such longings to the earliest and most "primitive"
object relationships. It appears that Balint's depiction of the
longing for primary love has wide applicability. Surely, we might
define "mature" love as a relationship characterized
by mutuality—"When the satisfaction or the security
of another person becomes as significant to one as is one's own
satisfaction or security, then the state of love exists"
(Sullivan, 1940, pp. 4243). Such mutuality, however, seems
clearly an ideal, not a normative practice. No matter how mature
and healthy, all love relationships are characterized by periodic
retreats from mutuality to self-absorption and demands for unconditional
sensitivity and acceptance. Many patients (not at all as "regressed"
as those Balint sees as suffering from a "basic fault")
take many years before their relationships are weighted more in
the direction of mutuality than self-absorption. Sullivan argued
that most of us are chronically juvenile, integrating relationships
on the basis of our own ego-centric concerns, lacking the capacity
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for
intimacy, for seeing things from the other's perspective as well.
Further, it seems particularly odd to depict the emergence in
the analytic situation of a preoccupation by the patient with
his or her own needs and an experience of the analyst as existing
only in relation to those needs as "primitive." Although
such longings and demands are organized and expressed differently
in different developmental eras and in different types of patients,
they are almost inevitable. One might argue that the analytic
situation is defined precisely in this way. Free-association,
for example, might be considered to embody precisely the freedom
to ignore any concern about the analyst's needs; the "fundamental
rule" thus is designed to encourage this kind of transient
narcissism (Greenberg, personal communication). Most patients
have the experience, or struggle to resist the experience, of
the analyst as existing only vis-a-vis them; in fact, the absence
of such feelings is often understood to reflect a "resistance
to the transference." Thus, Balint's concept of primary love
provides an illuminating account of relational longings and conflicts
throughout the life cycle, but, as with many object relations
formulations, these accounts have been collapsed into earliest
infancy, "a very primitive and peculiar object-relationship."
It
might be argued that the impact upon object relations concepts
produced by the developmental tilt is insignificant. The basic
concepts are there anyway, such a position would claim. What difference
does it make whether relational issues are understood as operating
essentially prior to the differentiation of psychic structure
and the inception of instinctual conflict?
Such
a view would necessarily minimize considerations of the aesthetics
and economics of theory-construction, since theories employing
the developmental tilt tend to be exceedingly and often unnecessarily
complex and contrived. Relational issues are granted temporal
priority, but the theory must move inexorably towards the establishment
of instinctual conflict at the core of "classical" neurosis.
Bridging this conceptual gap is not easy, and often requires the
kind of ingenuity for which Rube Goldberg was famous. Kohut's
(1971) postulation of two separate libidinal energies and developmental
lines (narcissistic-libido and object-libido) and his "principle
of complementarity, " and Kernberg's (1976) use of "general
systems theory, " are the clearest examples of strained arguments
and shifting terminology which serve as bridging concepts, allowing
the theorist to start with relational assumptions and
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arrive
at the traditional version of the Oedipus Complex (Mitchell, 1979).
The resultant theories have an oddly unsettling, implausible quality,
reminiscent of the architecturally notorious residential college
built at Yale whose exterior facade, facing earlier buildings,
is done in traditional Gothic style, while the interior facade
opens onto a fashionable (for the time of construction) colonial
courtyard. One enters the building (or theory) in one century
and exits in another! External continuity is preserved at the
price of internal contradiction and tension. However, the most
important impact on object relations concepts of the developmental
tilt is in terms of their clinical applications, and it is to
these I now turn.
Clinical
Consequences of the Developmental Tilt
The
relationship between patient and analyst has, from the very beginnings
of psychoanalysis, occupied a central place in all theorizing
about the analytic situation and its therapeutic action. The manner
in which that relationship has been conceived, however, has undergone
many intricate variations and transformations. Although any generalization
about this complex conceptual history runs the risk of oversimplification,
it is not at all misleading to note that in recent decades, the
analytic relationship has been understood as more and more of
a real and new relationship than previously. For Freud, the relationship
with the analyst was a re-creation of past relationships, a new
version struck from the original "stereotype plate"
(Freud, 1912). The here-and-now relationship was crucial, but
as a replication, as a vehicle for the recovery of memories, the
filling in of amnesias, which cured the patient. Contemporary
views of the analytic relationship tend to put more emphasis on
what is new in the analytic relationship. The past is still important,
but as a vehicle for understanding the meaning of the present
relationship with the analyst, and it is in the working through
of that relationship that cure resides. (See Racker, 1968), (and
Gill, 1983, for an extended treatment of this contrast.)
Object
relations theorists have played an important part in this redefinition
of the nature of the analytic relationship. Not surprisingly,
the analyst is seen not just as a projection screen for and interpreter
of old object relations, but as offering an opportunity for the
development of a new relationship. What does this new relationship
consist of? There is a wide range of different accounts. Fairbairn
(1952) puts it this way—in order for the patient
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to
relinquish his tie to bad objects, the tie which is at the core
of all psychopathology, he must experience the analyst as a "good
object." Objectlessness is impossible; one can't relinquish
old attachments unless new ones seem possible and compelling.
The analyst must become a good object—this is a formula
with which object relations theorists of all persuasions would
agree. But what does it mean to say the analyst becomes a "good
object"? "Good" in what sense? The analyst provides
possibilities for relatedness hithertofor unavailable to or unutilizable
by the patient. But what sort of opportunities for relatedness
does the analyst provide? It is here that the developmental tilt
becomes crucial, since the developmental tilt collapses relational
needs in general into the kinds of interactions which characterize
the relationship of the small infant and the mother. For many
of these authors, the analyst is seen as providing various dimensions
of relatedness which appear to characterize encounter and intimacy
throughout the life cycle: a containment (Bion, 1967) or holding
(Winnicott, 1949) of the other, merger experiences (Mahler, 1967),
admiration and occasions for idealization (Kohut, 1971), a generally
caring impact (Klein, 1957), etc. Yet instead of conceptualizing
these dimensions of the analytic relationship as providing the
patient with a richer, more complex, more adult kind of intimacy
that his previous psychopathology allowed him to experience, the
developmental tilt leads to a view of these dimensions essentially
as developmental remediations. Rather than being enriched in the
present, the patient is seen as having past omissions corrected,
developmental gaps plugged up. This lends a regressive cast to
the whole analytic enterprise and seriously distorts the nature
of these experiences. Let us consider several examples.
The
following is an excerpt from a case discussed by Melanie Klein
in Envy and Gratitude (1957). The patient is a woman described
as aggrieved about every aspect of her life.
She
had been breast-fed, but circumstances had otherwise not been
favourable and she was convinced that her babyhood and feeding
had been wholly unsatisfactory. Her grievance about the past linked
with hopelessness about the present and future É The patient
telephoned and said that she could not come for treatment because
of a pain in her shoulder. On the next day she rang me to say
that she was still not well but expected to see me on the following
day. When, on the third day, she actually came, she was full of
complaints. She had been looked after by her maid, but nobody
else had taken an interest in her. She described to me that at
one
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moment
her pain had suddenly increased, together with a sense of extreme
coldness. She had felt an impetuous need for somebody to come
at once and cover up her shoulder, so that it should get warm,
and to go away again as soon as that was done. At that instant
it occured to her that this must be how she had felt as a baby
when she wanted to be looked after and nobody came.
It
was characteristic of the patient's attitude to people, and threw
light on her earliest relation to the breast, that she desired
to be looked after but at the same time repelled the very object
which was to gratify her. The suspicion of the gift received,
together with her impetuous need to be cared for, which ultimately
meant a desire to be fed, expressed her ambivalent attitude towards
the breast. (p. 204)
Here
Klein depicts a woman whose view of her own life and relations
with others is characterized by a sense of deprivation, hopelessness,
cynicism, and a methodical refusal to allow herself to be given
to by anyone. Klein's formulations concerning envy (a deliberate
spoiling of the "good") provide a rich metaphorical
context for illuminating the patient's dynamics. However, Klein
reduces this lifelong refusal to allow anyone to give her anything,
to allow anyone to become important to her, to her relationship
as an infant with the breast. Klein is clear on this point. The
breast is not a metaphor for nurturance and hope. Neither is Klein
suggesting that the feelings toward the breast are the first in
a series of relationships with others in which the patient deals
with hopelessness and anxiety through envious spoiling. "Her
impetuous need to be cared for É ultimately meant a desire
to be fed." Various expressions of the need to be cared for,
surely a fundamental relational need throughout the life cycle,
are collapsed by Klein into symbolizations and transformations
of the earliest longings vis-à-vis the breast.
Balint's
writings reveal a similar tilt in his understanding of important
interpersonal events within the analytic process. Balint (1968)
tells of his work with an "attractive, vivacious, and rather
flirtatious girl in her late 20s, " who entered treatment
complaining of "an inability to achieve anything." She
had been academically successful, but unable to complete her final
exams, and socially popular, but unable to really become involved
with a man.
Gradually,
it emerged that her inability to respond was linked with a crippling
fear of uncertainty whenever she had to take any risk, that is,
take a decision. She had a very close tie to her forceful, rather
obsessional, but most reliable father; they understood and appreciated
each other; while
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her
relationship to her somewhat intimidated mother, whom she felt
to be unreliable, was openly ambivalent.
It
took us about two years before these connections made sense to
her. At about this time, she was given the interpretation that
apparently the most important thing for her was to keep her head
safely up, with both feet firmly planted on the ground. In response,
she mentioned that ever since her earliest childhood she could
never do a somersault; although at various periods she tried desperately
to do one. I then said: "What about it now?"—whereupon
she got up from the couch and, to her great amazement, did a perfect
somersault without any difficulty. (pp. 12829)
This
interaction proved to be an important breakthrough in the treatment;
"many changes followed in her emotional, social, and professional
life, all towards greater freedom and elasticity."
How
does Balint understand the somersault, the "crucial event"
in this case? He characterizes it as a "regression, "
which he carefully defines as the "emergence of a primitive
childish form of behavior after more mature, more adult, forms
have firmly established themselves" (p. 129). This is a peculiar
and unpersuasive characterization. Why is turning a somersault
"childish" and "primitive"? Against what faded
and anemic vision of adulthood is this being measured? Here is
a young woman who lives an adulthood of great caution, constriction
and uninvolvement. Given the interpretive context Balint and the
patient had developed, and given the patient's subsequent progress,
the somersault seems clearly a metaphorical enactment of her new
willingness to take risks, to plunge herself into things without
knowing exactly how they will turn out, to act in ways other than
a cautious placing her feet slowly one in front of the other.
Why "childish" and "primitive" then? The meaning
of the act is clearly a progression, not a regression, an expansion
of the patient's maturity and potentials, not a diminution of
them. Is the behavior itself so "childish" and "primitive"?
Adults are not supposed to make spontaneous physical gestures,
to play in this way?
The
most striking feature of Balint's account of this intriguing clinical
moment, however, is what is omitted in his characterization of
it as an "emergence." According to Balint's account,
this act didn't simply emerge—it was invited! It was Balint,
the adult analyst, who suggested that the patient try a somersault;
what was new for the patient was her ability to respond to this
invitation. The patient was closely tied to her obsessional but
reliable father. Her analyst of several years, doubtlessly also
obsessional and reliable, acts in a very different fashion from
the cautious father—he
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invited
her to play, to take a risk, and in so doing takes a risk himself.
He seduces her, in a fashion; or, perhaps, allows himself to respond
to her hobbled seductiveness. Here is a man, despite his respectability,
who is not bound by convention, willing to try something very
different, whose outcome is unknown and unknowable. Should we
characterize the analyst's invitation as regressive? This seems
an extraordinarily misleading way to depict a brilliant and creative
piece of clinical work. The patient and analyst have recreated
in the transference a powerful attachment mediated through reliability
and cautiousness, in which the decorum and professionalism of
the analytic situation are symbolic equivalents of the parents'
timidity and deep fear of life and spontaneity. Perhaps the crucial
event wasn't the patient's somersault at all, but the analyst's
invitation, through which he stepped out of the transferential
integration in which he was participating and thereby transformed
the relationship. Thus, Balint's clinical data suggest that the
patient's psychopathology is strongly bound up with her attachment
to her parents and their character pathology. The clarification
of that attachment, and the mutual development of new forms of
relation with respect to the analyst, are ameliorative. These
new forms of relation reflect a playfulness, spontaneity, a willingness
to take risks. The bias generated by the developmental tilt leads
to a characterization of these events as the emergence, even if
benignly, of a childishness, which, it seems to me, strikingly
distorts its likely meaning.
The
developmental tilt is evident not just in the writings of authors
from the British School, but also in the work of theorists in
the tradition of American Ego Psychology. Here structural conflict
over sexual and aggressive impulses is seen as dominating later
childhood and subsequent development. When relational issues are
added to the theory, most importantly in the contributions of
Mahler, Jacobson and Kernberg, they are introduced as pertaining
to the earliest developmental phase; their evidence later in life
is regarded as a regressive residue of very early disturbance.
Consider this clinical excerpt from Blanck and Blanck (1974),
who have synthesized various ego psychological contributions and
applied them to clinical practice.
Mrs.
Fletcher:
I
always feel unwanted. My husband only wanted me for sex, but he
never held me just because he liked me.
Therapist:
Everyone
needs to be held at times, but when do we need it most?
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Mrs.
Fletcher:
You
mean when we were babies? You seem to be telling me that when
I think of a woman, even if sexually, that it really reflects
the way I yearned to be held, cuddled, and loved by my mother.
Therapist:
Do
you see now why you asked me whether I am a "butch"?
Mrs.
Fletcher:
Oh,
it upsets me. I want a woman.
Therapist:
But
do you understand why?
Mrs.
Fletcher:
I
need mothering.
Thus
the patient arrives at the realization that her homosexual wishes
contain the intense yearning for mothering that was unfulfilled
in the age-appropriate symbiotic phase. (p. 306)
Consider
the therapist's first intervention. The patient has expressed
the view that her husband uses her for sex, without feeling any
tenderness or liking for her. The therapist pays lip service to
the need for tenderness throughout life, and then immediately
collapses such a need into the infant's need for tenderness from
the mother, "when we need it most." Relational needs
which might reasonably be regarded as aspects of all adult relationships,
a longing to be held and cherished, are here depicted as regressive,
symbiotic yearnings, unresolved residues from earliest childhood.
The introduction of Mahler's concept of symbiosis as pre-structural,
rather than as a depiction of the tension between autonomy and
surrender throughout the life cycle, necessitates the collapsing
of the need for tenderness and the longing for fusion into the
earliest relationship with the mother. Such yearnings vis-a-vis
the mother are not depicted as the first in a series of similar
longings in later relationships, but as the only developmental
forum in which such needs make sense. (Bergman [1971]) (provides
a moving Mahlerian account of adult love as inevitably drawing
on symbiotic yearnings, yet these are still, by definition, regressive,
even if regression in the service of romance.)
Whether
or not relational issues are tilted toward infancy has important
implications in the handling of a clinical material, as the following
example illustrates.
A
young professor of English literature (who knows much of the psychoanalytic
literature) has been struggling with phobic anxiety about presenting
his work to his peers. He comes from a tight-knit extended family,
very closed in on itself, regarding the external world and particularly
people who move successfully through it, with great suspicion.
The patient felt great conflict between his intellectual endeavors
and upwardly mobile
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ambitions,
and his deep loyalty to the anti-intellectual and paranoid traditions
of his family. His mother was a long-suffering daughter/wife/mother
who induced great guilt and expected her children to stay with
and protect her; his father was a brittle, narcissistic and grandiose
man who was disdainful and deeply fearful of life outside the
narrow confines of his interests. The patient never felt support
or admired for his accomplishments, which he kept essentially
hidden and devalued, convinced that they would destroy both parents
and his connections with them, which he both dreaded and longed
for. After working on many facets of his phobic anxiety, the patient
began a session apologetically reporting a recent success. A long-feared
meeting at which he was to present his work had gone very well;
in fact, he felt exuberant in his display of his powers; he felt
that he should be able to go on to other matters, but he still
seemed to "need" to tell the analyst all about it, hoping
to elicit approval and pride in him. He regarded this need for
"mirroring" (he'd been reading Kohut) as childish and
very embarassing, a sign of how deeply he'd been damaged in his
ability to sustain a sense of self-worth.
What
is the nature of this patient's hesitantly expressed, wished-for
interaction? He wants to revel in his success, to crow, to elicit
the analyst's admiration, pride, perhaps envy. He regards this
wish as childish, and is embarassed by it. This attitude toward
his wish is consistent with the approach taken toward many relational
needs generated by object relations theories introduced through
the developmental tilt; it is the position taken by Klein toward
her patient's wish for nurturance, by Balint toward the somersault,
by Blanck and Blanck toward the patient's wish to be held and
cherished. The analyst in this case did not experience the patient's
wish to share his success as resembling an infant seeking self-recognition
in mother's eyes, or a little boy showing off, but rather as a
man who was fearfully prideful of his success and newly discovered
powers. However, the patient's apologetic display pulls for reassurance
from the analyst (either explicitly or implicitly), a request
for permission to show his powers, which preserves both the characterological
defense of the patient and a subtle protectiveness for the other,
who, it is assumed, cannot bear to fully witness the patient's
struggles and triumphs. The resultant interaction is a blend of
expansive vitality, solicitous protectiveness, deferential obsequiousness
and ultimate, secret triumph. Is the prideful man unrelated to
the boastful boy or the yearning baby? Probably not. These might
be usefully regarded as expressions, at different developmental
levels and through different cognitive and symbolic modalities,
of the same fundamental relational need. To collapse
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the
various transformations of that need into its earliest manifestation,
however, is to seriously distort its meaning and to infantalize
the patient as well.
The
skewing of relational issues created by the developmental tilt
is sometimes accompanied by two additional clinical emphases—a
tendency to minimize the importance of conflict, and a tendency
to portray the patient as essentially passive. These two qualities
characterize, in particular, the clinical approaches developed
by Winnicott, Guntrip, Balint and Kohut.
Drive
theory is conflict theory—asocial impulses clash with socially-inspired
defenses against impulses, and it is from this clash that all
mental life is generated. Theorists introducing relational issues
through the developmental tilt have often tended to present these
issues not only as earlier, but also as non-conflictual, pre-conflictual.
Relational needs are not asocial, leading inevitably to conflict
with the social environment. Relational needs are social by definition;
what is sought is some form of relatedness; if the interpersonal
environment provides the opportunity for that relatedness, there
is no conflict. If the interpersonal environment does not provide
such opportunities, what results is not conflict but deprivation.
Winnicott (1954) expresses this point of view most clearly, in
distinguishing between "needs" and "wishes."
Wishes derive from instinctual impulses and eventually clash with
social reality; if they are not gratified, they can be repressed,
sublimated, transformed into aim-inhibited gratifications, etc.
Needs are developmental necessities; the child requires certain
kinds of parenting behaviors to provide necessary experiences.
If the parent provides them, the child continues to develop; if
the parent does not provide them, the child stops developing,
becomes frozen. Similarly, if the analyst does not provide these
object relational opportunities in some fashion, nothing else
can happen. It is not gratification of impulses; it is a question
of reaching the self by providing necessary experiences. Serious
psychopathology, in Winnicott's view, is always a result of inadequate
provision of needs, always an "environmental deficiency disease."
In Winnicott's model, the simple provision of maternal functions
produces in the child non-conflictual experience and the simple
unfolding of the self.
Guntrip
(1969) similarly operates on the premise that a seamless, conflict-free
existence is humanly possible, and certainly desirable.
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If
we imagine a perfectly mature person, he would have no endopsychic
structure in the sense of permanently opposed drives and controls.
He would be a whole unified person whose internal psychic differentiation
and organization would simply represent his diversified interest
and abilities, within an overall good ego-development, in good
object-relationship. (p. 425)
Proper
parenting results in a perpetual internal harmony and equilibrium.
Then
the grown-up child is free without anxiety or guilt to enter an
erotic relationship with an extrafamilial partner, and to form
other important personal relationships in which there is a genuine
meeting of kindred spirits without the erotic element, and further
to exercise an active and spontaneous personality free from inhibiting
fears. This kind of parental love, which the Greeks called agape
as distinct from eros, is the kind of love the psychotherapist
must give his patient because he did not get it from his parents
in an adequate way. (p. 357)
In
developing his "self psychology in the broad sense, "
Kohut (1977) takes a very similar position—if parenting
is adequate in providing appropriate self-object functions, life
proceeds rather simply and easily. Even the peak of the oedipal
stage, the climax of instinctual sturm und drang in classical
theory, is experienced as a joyful exercise of functions.
The
dramatic conflict-ridden Oedipus of classical analysis, with its
percepts of a child whose aspirations are crumbling under the
impact of castration fear, is not a primary maturational necessity,
but only the frequent result of frequently occuring failures from
the side of narcissistically disturbed parents É (p. 247)
Similarly,
suggests Kohut, if the analyst does not subject the patient to
"empathic failures, " the analysis proceeds smoothly
and non-conflictually.
To
regard conflict as the exclusive property of drive theory and
to present relational concepts as fundamentally non-conflictual
in nature is to seriously limit the clinical utility of object
relations contributions. It misses the importance of conflicts
between and among different relationships and identifications,
where ties and loyalties to one parent, for example, are experienced
as (and in reality may very well be) a threat to ties and loyalties
to the other. Also missed is the clinical importance of conflict
within a single relationship. Intimacy is never a primrose path,
but a process which includes risks, choices and anxiety. Particularly
for patients
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whose
past efforts at relatedness have been severely dashed, warmth,
nurturance, connection, can be a frightening prospect. Otto Will
(1959) notes that for some patients, paradoxically, "closeness
to another implies anxiety, separation and death" (p. 213).
Surely,
a patient's retreat, fragmentation and withdrawal may be caused
by a missed connection on the part of the analyst, but not necessarily
so. To assume that it is, unnecessarily limits clinical options.
It is often not the experience of "empathic failure, "
but the experience of empathic success that precipitates withdrawal,
devaluation and fragmentation. For someone who has experienced
repeated failure of meaningful connection, whose essential attachments
are to constricted and painful relationships, either in actuality
or fantasy, hope is a very dangerous feeling. It may be precisely
the sense of meaningful connection that precipitates the patient's
withdrawal, because the possibility of such connection calls into
question the basic premises of the patient's painfully constricted
subjective world. Sullivan's (1953) formulation of the "malevolent
transformation, " Klein's (1951) concept of envious spoiling,
and Bion's (1967) depiction of "attacks on linking"
all point to the dangers of hope and the conflictual nature of
relational needs. The minimization of the importance of conflict,
which sometimes accompanies object relations concepts introduced
through the developmental tilt, leads to a view of relational
processes which is simplistic and overlooks their essential ambivalence
in the psychoanalytic situation.
A
closely related clinical emphasis sometimes generated by the developmental
tilt is the tendency to portray the patient as passive, detached
and victimized. Psychopathology is a direct product of deprivation,
"environmental failure." Certain kinds of interpersonal
experiences are necessary for the growth of the self; when these
are lacking, central features of the child remain buried, unevoked,
frozen. The patient as he presents himself for treatment is an
empty shell vacated by this missing core, which can only be brought
to life through the analyst's creation of a more receptive environment;
the passive, "true self" of the patient awaits this
call. Guntrip (1971) states most clearly the premises of this
approach to treatment, which I have characterized as the "Sleeping
Beauty" model (Greenberg & Mitchell, 1983). Psychotherapy
is
the
provision of the possibility of a genuine, reliable, understanding,
and respecting, caring personal relationship in which a human
being whose
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true
self has been crushed by the manipulative technique of those who
wanted to make him "not be a nuisance" to them, can
begin at last to feel his own true feelings, and think his own
spontaneous thoughts, and find himself to be real. (p. 182)
Guntrip
sees the neurotic as a "neglected physically grown-up child"
having been deprived of the "elementary right to the primary
supportive relationship that can alone enable him to live"
(1971, p. 156). Thus, the analyst brings to the frightened child
in the patient missed possibilities for life. "At the deepest
level, psychotherapy is replacement therapy, providing for the
patient what the mother failed to provide at the beginning of
life" (1971, p. 191).
This
view of the patient as an abandoned, deprived, detached infant
overlooks the extent to which psychopathology often entails an
active clinging to, often an insistence on, symptomatic behaviors
and painful experience. Fairbairn's notion that underneath all
forms of psychopathology one finds an attachment to "bad
objects" points to this active dimension which Guntrip's
later formulations (when he was under the influence of Winnicott's
work) lose. Psychopathology is not simply an absence or fearful
avoidance of good relatedness. We often observe not just an avoidance
of the positive, but a fascination with the negative. Patients
with repetitive disturbances in relations with others are drawn,
like the moth to the flame, to specific negative types of relations—sadistic,
skittish, withdrawn, or debilitated. This compulsive repetition
of painful early experience seems to reflect not just a detachment
from some forms of relationship, but an attachment to others.
The masochistic character seeks abuse partially because the violence
imparts a fantasy of connection and caring from others who are
experienced as inaccessible in other ways. The depressed character
seeks deprivation often because it makes possible a deep and often
fantasied sense of connection with a schizoid or depressed parent,
so unavailable in other ways. What the patient is attached to
is often not actual attributes of the parents, but fantasied attributes,
not satisfying features of their relationship, but precisely what
is missing. It is the deprivation, the pain, the depression which
serves as a vehicle for attachment. Embedded in much psychopathological
experience and behavior are personifications of others, to whom
the analysand feels tied through the pathology. The patient does
not simply miss or exclude from consciousness signals which would
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lead
to nurturance and attachment—he looks for different cues,
which draw him into attachments not based on caring and support
but on pain, misery and so on. The danger of the new dimension
of the analytic relationship is that it challenges these allegiances;
the patient must choose between attachments to fantasied images
and presences which impart an often subtle sense of safety and
connection, and the possibility of attachment to real others,
with all the attendent risks. Thus, analysands often speak of
the dread of a profound isolation in giving up their neurosis;
psychopathology is not merely a state of aborted, frozen development,
but a cocoon actively woven out of fantasied ties to significant
others. Consider the dream of an analysand in the termination
phase of treatment.
The
patient's parents suffered from deep depressions and considerable
misfortune, that peaked when he was six, leading them to withdraw
into their own isolation and depression in a very global sort
of way. He developed into an extremely competent and resourceful
man, who suffered from a very low sense of self-esteem, bouts
of depression, and a tendency to form symbiotic relations with
lovers who were greatly disadvantaged in some fashion. The dream
followed a period of work in which he had begun to experience
himself and his relationships with other people in a more positive,
even joyful way. This movement made him anxious; he feared that
it was his depression and sensitivity to depression in others
that made him a desirable person. Here is the dream:
I
am on a small island off the mainland with my parents and sister.
I take a boat to the mainland, where there is a sort of carnival
going on. I walk around, watching the people, participating, having
a great time. Then I remember that I must return to the island.
I get in the boat and try to go back, but insects come and sting
me. If I move back and stop rowing, they stop. I start to move
toward the island and they sting again. I stop; they stop. I am
very conflicted about what to do. After a long time of trying
and stopping, I give up with a sense of relief, and rejoin the
activities on the mainland.
The
dream seemed to fit his experience at that time. He felt a sense
of the rich possibilities which life and other people offer. Yet
he also felt bound by his loyalties to his family and their ways.
The connection to them was maintained through a stinging pain.
As long as he suffered like they had, remaining isolated from
others, he was bound up with them. To live more fully is to abandon
them
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and
the comfort which the tie to them provides. Paradoxically, the
deadness of his early experience with his parents, recreated in
his current life, provided him a largely fantasied connection
with others, which he felt kept him alive and encased in an illusory
safety. Beneath a seemingly passive "detachment" is
often a secret attachment, largely unconscious, but experienced
as necessary and life-sustaining. The relational issues depicted
in the contributions of object relations authors greatly illuminate
patients' struggles, both past and present, yet the tendency to
collapse these issues into early infancy and to portray the patient
as nonconflictually and passively awaiting a reawakening distorts
their nature and the processes through which they are perpetuated.
Object
Relations Theory: Divergent Clinical Applications
All
relational model theories rest, either explicitly or implicitly,
on a broad developmental perspective. Human relations are understood
to constitute the basic stuff of experience, and the pursuit and
maintenance of relatedness is seen as the essential motivational
thrust both in normality and in psychopathology. Relations take
different forms across the life cycle—early relationships
between the infant and caretakers are precursors and, in some
sense, prerequisites to later, more complex relationships. A commonly
held tenet of all versions of relational model theories is the
premise that disturbances in the earliest relationship with caretakers
significantly interferes with subsequent relateness, and is a
predisposing factor in the generation of later psychopathology.
With
respect to clinical applications, however, object relations theories
often diverge not around the question of what the patient's problem
was (i.e. what went wrong in his or her early relationships),
but around the question of what the problem now is, and what is
best done about it. The patient's development and capacity for
relatedness has been warped by early difficulties in relations
with significant others. Agreed. The question is, what is the
present nature of these difficulties, and what is the most effective
point of remediation. Authors whose vision passes through a lens
of theory skewed by the developmental tilt tend to view the patient
as an infantile self in an adult body, fixed in developmental
time and awaiting interpersonal conditions which will make further
development possible. In this view, what was missed is still missing,
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and
needs to be provided for essentially in the form in which it was
missed the first time around. The analyst must enter at the point
of the "environmental failure, " providing relational
experiences as "replacements" for those which the infant
never encountered. It is this view of psychopathology as the encapsulation
of past infantile needs that Levenson points to in characterizing
object relations theory as viewing the patient as an adult "stuck
with an incorporated infant, like a fishbone in the craw of his
maturity" (1983, p. 142). However, this is not the only possible
clinical application of object relations concepts. In fact, it
can be argued that it violates the basic meaning of Fairbairn's
claim that the analyst must become a "good object."
Let us return to the commonly held developmental perspective to
trace out an alternative position.
The
pursuit and maintenance of human relatedness are understood to
constitute the basic maturational thrust in human experience.
Disturbances in early relationships with caretakers seriously
distort subsequent relatedness, not by freezing or fixing infantile
needs in place, but by setting in motion a complex process through
which the child builds an interpersonal world (or world of object
relations) out of what is available. The child simply cannot do
without relationships, without ties to others, both in terms of
real interactions and in terms of a sense of interconnection,
belonging. To be human means to be in relation to others, to be
embedded in a relational matrix. Thus, Fairbairn (1952) chronicles
the processes through which the child's early experience is fragmented
and internalized: gratifying contact with parents is preserved
through real relatedness, while ungratifying contact is fractured
and preserved in fantasies of "objects" to which portions
of the child's "ego" become attached, fantasies of attachments
to internal objects being necessary to fill the child's need for
a fuller human connection. Fairbairn depicts the patient's deepest
longing (libidinal ego) as focused on aspects of the parents which
seemed to offer something (the "exciting object")—an
appearance of vitality, or warmth, or sexuality they never had
access to, which they could not reach. As the child grows to adulthood,
subsequent relationships are filtered through this constellation
of infantile fantasies, and, to a greater or lesser extent, experienced
in their terms.
How
does the patient break out of this closed system? The analyst
offers him or herself as a "good" object. However, the
"good" object must not be confused with any of the patient's
internal objects
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or
fantasies. The patient has never known a "good" object,
which is why the fragmentation which underlies psychopathology
occurs. Surely the "good" object is not equivalent to
the "exciting object, " the patient's image of an impossible,
unreachable nurturance which fantasy sustained him or her in the
absence of real relationships. No, Fairbairn's "good object"
operates outside the closed system of the patient's internalized
object relations (as does Racker's [1968] portrayal of the analyst
as interpreter); the "good object" must offer something
real, something authentic, which makes possible the leap out of
the closed world of the patient's fantasied object ties.
Thus,
the theory that analytic cure lies in the provision of a replacement
for missed infantile experience is actually coterminous with the
patient's own infantile fantasy of a magical cure—the analyst
attempts to become the "exciting object, " the "magic
helper" (Fromm, 1947, p. 70), to make good on the patient's
"happy thought" (Sullivan, 1956, p. 203). Some analytic
work done under the aegis of object relations theory via the developmental
tilt is thus marred by a collusion between the patient's fantasy
and the analyst's theory; the patient is jointly viewed as an
exquisitely delicate and brittle infant to be handled in just
the right fashion by a uniquely sensitive caretaker, leading to
a splitting of the transference and a removal of the analysis
from the world of real people, from which it never returns. Other
analytic work done under the aegis of object relations theory
via the developmental tilt, such as Balint's invitation to the
somersault, seems to be excellent analysis explained in a curious
fashion. The analyst interacts with the patient in a warm, spontaneous,
concerned, or possibly risk-taking fashion. Dimensions of relatedness
are expressed which, in another context, would be regarded as
an important component of intimacy throughout the life cycle,
including intimacy between adults. Yet the interaction is collapsed
into mother-infant terms, translated into the romance of the nursery.
We
began by noting the multiplicity and heterogeneity of theories
considered to be "object relations" theories and the
divergent strategies of theory-construction which they reflect.
Most broadly, object relations concepts serve as a new model for
viewing all of development, offering an alternative metapsychology,
supplying a hermeneutics fundamentally different from drive theory.
However,
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this
model has been positioned via classical theory in different ways.
In theorizing, as in living, no choice is without its price. Object
relations theories like Fairbairn, which abandon the drive model,
paid a price in the loss of continuity and the finely-honed elegance
of classical theory. Object relations theorists who have preserved
a continuity between new relational concepts and the drive model
framework have also paid a price, in the distortions generated
by the developmental tilt. In using object relations contributions
and evaluating their place in the history of psychoanalytic ideas,
it is crucial to separate out the conceptual substance from the
packaging, the vision of human experience from the positioning
of that vision vis-à-vis prior traditions.
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